A few nights ago, right cheek smooshed against his muscular chest, arms around his waist, I heard it: “I like that you’re so low maintenance.”
“Say more.”
“It’s so easy to be with you. You appreciate the small things. You say I’ve given so much, & I feel like I haven’t given much. It’s easy to make you happy.”
Tears lined my eyes. I thought – this is what I’ve always wanted to hear. He gets me. I’ve always felt this way about myself.
“Thank you for seeing me. That hasn’t always been the case,” I said as I squeezed him tight.
I relaxed more deeply into his presence, feeling cherished, witnessed, honored.
This was 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 the case in the past. “Too much. Intense. What’s wrong with you? I can’t make you happy. Why you trippin’?” was the norm from men I’ve dated.
𝙄𝙣 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮, 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙮 𝙪𝙣𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙙:
~ I berated myself; therefore, I received the same energy from my dates.
~I didn’t understand how to vet a man. I chose insecure men who came on hard and fast, then chose them in a rush because they were right in front of me.
~I didn’t get how to care for my own emotions and heart, so I met men who were also inexperienced in handling my heart with care.
~I didn’t know how to communicate my feelings and desires in a way a man could hear. I dated men who matched my inability to be vulnerable.
When I did begin trusting myself, I still met all types of men. I heard all the things I used to hear.
The only difference? I now stood on solid ground, recognizing flags, knowing when to walk because I was clear and consistent in myself and my destination.
𝙈𝙮 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙚𝙙 𝙢𝙮 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙨.
Emotional attachments were secondary. I 𝖈𝖊𝖆𝖘𝖊𝖉 𝖇𝖊𝖎𝖓𝖌 𝖆 𝖛𝖎𝖇𝖗𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓𝖆𝖑 𝖒𝖆𝖙𝖈𝖍 with the insecure, abusive, lost types.
My man reflects how fiercely I chose to and continue to choose to love myself in all my mess.
This is dynamic – never set in stone. The minute I put everything on him & stop caring deeply for myself, he will FEEL it, and our polarities will shift. He instinctively is less adoring because he unconsciously senses
my attempts to siphon energy from him…
Our romantic relationships are sacred. Each and every one of them is reflecting an aspect of your relationship with you. You’re receiving your energetic match, regardless of your thoughts and emotions on it.
When you’re looking for a ready NOW partner, you’re looking for a certain caliber of human.
𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙫𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙩𝙩𝙖 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙘 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙘𝙝 𝙢𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 to line up with your person.
Look at your love life now. What is the one big thing your date/partner is reflecting back to you? Emoji 💩 if you dislike and 🥳 if you are excited with the reflection. Brave souls with the 💩 emoji – share more deets for free coaching in the comments. Take advantage…I rarely offer free advice, like I rarely share my food. 😂
